Shelly Argov in her book, “Why Men Love Bitches,” suggests that guys pull away as test. They want to see how the girl will react, and if they girl doesn’t get over emotional, it will make her more desirable. If she reacts, then the guy runs.
I’m the emotional girl. Every single time I sleep with a guy he starts to pull away after, and I chase him, and obviously, it never works out. I hate that they pull away, I hate that things change so instantly, you’d think I’d be use to it by now but I’m not. I think it hurts more and more. It makes me feel more and more terrible about myself, and I’ve noticed that I have become more needy as I’ve gotten older. I can’t control myself. I know I shouldn’t be a crazy stalker and send a million text messages, but I do. I know I should walk away, but I try harder. It’s the worst feeling, but I HAVE to exhaust the situation or it causes me too much anxiety.
I find the whole dating game exhausting. The only way to make friends and build any kind of relationship is to talk and spend time together, but if you act aloof, then you could miss out on something, on the other hand, if you try too hard, you’re needy and a crazy stalker. Where’s the line??? What is a good balance?
So is any advice good advice? If it’s meant to be it will be? Are relationships all about fate? Is there really someone out there for everyone? I have no frickin clue!